Hi there, I am very sorry it has been ages since I last wrote. Yes the title refers to those ages, not real ones, sorry again.
This time I do have a good excuse though!
Remember the course I told you about. I took it…… and I got my diploma!!!
What kind of course takes less than two months you might ask. I decided to share this part with you as well, hoping you don’t think I’m a freak afterward.
At least not more of a freak than you already know I am.
Let me start of keeping it a bit of a mystery still, the answer will be in this piece, I promise.
The course is for something I have been wanting to do since I have been about 14. I could not get an education in it then, because it was one of those things you have to learn in practice and then you go to school one day of the week. We know a system in our land where the government can help pay for your education if your parents can not get you through it themselves, but the education I wanted was not included.
Now do not think for one moment my parents where lazy or anything! The have always done everything they could to get us wat we needed, but sometimes life does not turn out the way you expect. I have had the best youth ever, with more love at home than lots of kids get and loads of love to spare. I did get a good education in doing something I truly like doing (I work in administration) but it was not my first choice.
The two choices could not be further apart than they are I think, but that does not matter. Back to business…
Now, years later I found a course that could help me to go follow my heart. It is a start, but I am going to have to change my life and my partner and I will have to discuss if we can get me started in it financially, because it would mean I will probably have to start with a contract for zero hours. If there is work, I work, but there might be times I barely bring in enough for bread that month. Ah well, we will see how that goes. I’ll keep you posted.
Now the moment you have been waiting for….
What kind of a freak am I?
Keep in mind, the course only gave me basic information. The only way to really learn to do what I want to do is by getting a job in it. You learn on the job, because getting schooled in most of the things we learned requires a very specific item. One you do not simply get at a store and when one is available it need to be treated with respect.
The course I did was one of five weeks in which I learned the basics of taking care of our dearly departed.
When your loved ones die, some-one needs to take care of them for the time they are above ground. I want to be some-one who takes that burden of your shoulders, so you can grieve, and know they are in good hands. As I said, I just learned the basic. The do’s and don’ts you have to know. A little practice in how stiches work. Which stich can we use and in what situation do we use them. We practiced on pigs skin and afterwards on a banana.
On a BANANA! Yes, on a banana (what am I a minion?) because the skin of a banana is so fragile. If you can do you stiches without tearing through it you know you do it with finesse. Believe me, I thought it would be easy, but the banana turned brown under my hands and the skin got all soft, but I succeeded.
After the things I have seen and heard, I know I want to do this job. It is sooooooo important to have a proper goodbye, because there are no do-overs. It has to go right in one take, but if it does….. it helps the people left behind at least a little bit, because the first step on the road of grieve has been a good one.
We also learned thing are very different if you get to other countries. The things we learn here, do not apply to the world, just to our country. We have certain laws about dealing with the dead and every piece of the world handles it their way. As far as I am concerned, if it is a good way for them it is a good way.
Now let’s hope I can find a job and start turning my wishes to reality, even though I know it is not as rose-coloured as It seems from what I have written. Yes I know I will get babies and children and people that did not die in their sleep and might even be unrecognisable, but keep in mind… most of the times it won’t be my loved one, so I have a certain distance that is needed to be able to do this. For me the most important thing is to help people say goodbye to their loved ones.
Since I have not sat down and shared my life for a couple of weeks, there are stories that have not been told… Time to catch up, but let’s do that in my next entry. Thank you for being patient.